I define a Fetishsexual as a person driven to orgasm or other deep erotic state through innate, inherent sexually charged enactments of internalized archetypal, symbolic, mythic storylines. I believe it qualifies according to APA definitions as a sexual identity. Fetishsexual desires often fall within a broad range of eroticized psychological, emotional and physical power-exchange dynamics enacted through archetypal sexual personas as either dominant, submissive, sadist, masochist, and a pantheon of sub-categories of each. A Fetishsexual has what I define as a Personal Erotic Myth (PEM) that is engaged from within the unconscious, when they become sexually aroused. A PEM contains the fantasy, imagery, storylines, archetypal personas and counter-personas, props, attire, dialogue, setting, intensities and actions that drive one’s sexual desire. I will describe how therapists can support a client seeking to feel empowered to express their authentic desire for Fetish in a healthy conscious consensual way, and begin to untangle the decades of shame, fear, trauma and internalized judgments that may hide or hold their authentic desire back.
After attending this workshop, participants will be able to:
- Explain the important distinctions between the D/s (dominance/submission) aspect and the BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism) aspect of Kink enactments to better help clients maneuver this complex paradoxical sexual expression.
- Discuss ways for your client to consciously embody, express and gain deeper understanding of their inherent sexual desires, Kink or not, and untangle shame, fear and harsh internalized judgments that resist and inhibit their desire’s fullest expression.
- Define the key steps that support a client to raise their level of honesty, integrity, intention, transparency, consensually and negotiation with current and future partners.